tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post7455182982028059435..comments2023-05-20T08:49:51.904-05:00Comments on Rainbows and Pony Rides: Weekend Update: With Lesbian Loser BloggerLGAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03631019001084319694noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-53224391529940984912010-06-17T08:16:47.107-05:002010-06-17T08:16:47.107-05:00From the perspective of one who never wants kids: ...From the perspective of one who never wants kids: I always made this clear early in dating relationships, usually during the first or second date.<br /><br />If she says she doesn't want kids, she doesn't want kids. That probably includes the ones you have already. This will not change, thus, she's wrong for you. Wish her well and move on (as you have).<br /><br />(My current SO doesn't want kids, either.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-40534907118791429502010-06-14T17:44:53.584-05:002010-06-14T17:44:53.584-05:00I can see how you would be pissed off by that. I&#...I can see how you would be pissed off by that. I'm sure anyone would feel deceived in those circumstances. <br /><br />I think you've received some great input/advice on the matter, so I haven't got much to add in that regard. I do wish you the best though.Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05553652923537266660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-87664010538500623392010-06-04T12:10:07.593-05:002010-06-04T12:10:07.593-05:00:):)Rexienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-36498752119056161702010-06-04T00:36:41.790-05:002010-06-04T00:36:41.790-05:00Asya... yes, I blog here because I want to read ot...Asya... yes, I blog here because I want to read others' opinions. I may not agree with what opinions or advice I get, but I respect that everyone is putting time into reading about my little life and typing out their responses. So thank you. :)<br /><br />MVEMJSUNp (can I call you JSun?)... welcome here! "Stop taking the blame for other people's emotions." Uhhhhh... sure, but it's never been that easy for me. I'm TRYING though! "Continue to be true to yourself." That's the plan.<br /><br />Rexie... Thank you, thank you! I feel oh so validated. And ... "This life is new to you and your family, so you might think about stabilizing your role as a single mom before moving onto a relationship that is serious." You're right... :)LGAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03631019001084319694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-84060851384593752762010-06-03T14:22:18.740-05:002010-06-03T14:22:18.740-05:00I agree that a potential partner should want kids,...I agree that a potential partner should want kids, or maybe even have some of her own. When someone says they don't want kids, you should listen. It means they don't want kids. Even though they might make concessions in order to be in a relationship with you, it will always be in the back of both of your minds. Do you really want your kids to be accepted as a concession anyway? Why not look for someone who whole not only heartedly accepts them but wants them too? Until you find her, it's OK to have just flings without any long term plans, if you want to. Have fun being who you are. Meet people. Make friends. This life is new to you and your family, so you might think about stabilizing your role as a single mom before moving onto a relationship that is serious.Rexienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-61331278066271765392010-06-03T13:42:47.200-05:002010-06-03T13:42:47.200-05:00I have med head, so this may not make sense, but:
...I have med head, so this may not make sense, but:<br />You are still learning the lessons... you are getting confirmations that you know what you want and the assurance that you are heading in the right direction. Just because others are unsure of their path/status/wants does not reflect upon you. Stop taking the blame for other people's emotions. Continue to be true to yourself.MVEMJSUNphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04716005097264817728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459911681566627296.post-18107515550097882422010-06-03T13:03:29.503-05:002010-06-03T13:03:29.503-05:00Just offering advice...and if you don't want i...Just offering advice...and if you don't want it-disregard. First, it pisses me off that when people know you have kids (and this goes for any single parent) that they go into a "friendship" or "relationship" knowing that, so the bait and switch on how they feel about it makes me angry. I can totally understand why that would confuse/hurt/upset you. Ok, so here is my opinion...perhaps if they can't see that your kids are important in your life, then maybe they are not seeing the real you. Although a mother's life is not all about their children, they are a significant part of it and someone that is "right" for you, or important in your life will find your children important to them. WARNING, another opinion, take it slow...maybe make yourself NOT be "close" or "intimate" until...you make up when (a certain date #, time frame, etc...). I only say this because even just a kiss or an intimate touch or moment "changes" all the emotions~makes them different/stronger/not sure how to describe it. Take time to have all the "conversations" in person first...I know it is hard sometimes and have to say when I was dating I didn't follow this advice, but I hate to see people, esp. my dear friends hurt and I know how special of a person you are and that you deserve everything you want and need and more.<br />Again, just my opinion, disregard if you don't care to hear it.Asyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02464156628126879148noreply@blogger.com