My apologies. I sort of dropped off there didn't I? The last week of my school term proved to be rather stressful. But, it was all worth it. A's again. And I actually kind of enjoyed my last assignment (a paper) in one of my classes. I thought I would get straight away to blogging again... but... well... my house, kids, and S all needed some attention. Plus, I had the opportunity to travel out of state to meet S's parents (The Duo) and spend a little time with my BFF Jess. I can blog about all that later, I s'pose.
I've felt very pensive lately. Had quite a few talks with S about this. And many times she's encouraged me to blog, to write.
She knows how important writing is to me. She knows that without writing in my life I would not be able to sleep well. Writing is like the same as breathing air. I don't even think about it. I just do. Well... I do think about it. And that's where my problem has been the last month.
People Clutter. People Clutter is hiding my work. I'll try to explain:
I've had some opportunities where I've felt some boundaries were blurred in personal relationships - friendships - and I've done enough work and value my relationships enough to want to keep these boundaries clear. My first instinct, of course is to write. Like many would want to take a deep breath, I want to go to my keyboard and write. Get it out. Purge it... and then it sorts itself out.
But, I feel so choked up here on this blog. I started this blog with the intent to be able to write as if no one were reading my words; that way I would be able to write as honestly and as uncensored as possible. In order to do this I had initially decided to be as anonymous as possible. But the ex girlfriend found out about it... then a schoolmate... and of course a couple BFFs... and I'm not sure how I told my sister, but she reads... and then of course my partner S reads....then through those wonderful trackers out there I found an entire slew of people reading that don't know that I know they are reading. Oh and that guy from where I used to work...
After awhile anonymity didn't really seem that important to me. I felt like I was still able to write as if no one were reading (i.e. uncensored), and I still felt like I was breathing.
I don't know when I stopped breathing.
But I think all of these people are really just clutter that is choking the air out of me. Maybe I'm just being a little dramatic.
Don't ask S her opinion about my melodrama.
Of course I was discussing this with my friend (or maybe a few friends, shhhhh!)... and I have decided I have a few options here. I can stop blogging here, on Rainbows and Pony Rides. I can move to another site (I've been wanting to go to WordPress anyway) and take caution to use extreme anonymity... with exception to S. I feel completely comfortable with her reading my writing and often I need her to read something before I hit "publish" anyway. Most of you won't get the forwarding address.
I can keep this blog for just fucking around and use an "old school journal" with a fancy pen (of course) for when I need to really breath.... I mean write. I don't know how much I like this idea. Part of the process for me is the keyboard. Is that stupid? Part of the process for me is actually having it in print. Part of the process is having OTHER people read my story and take something from it. I need that. So I like this idea least. I think.
I think the last option I have is to continue, as I am... but just be brave. And when I start to feel the People Clutter choke the air out of me... that's when I need to push myself through it... and just come up for air.
What do you all think? Anyone... any ideas?
Because I'd really like to get to writing about some shit that's gone down this month.